Wed, 3 February 2021

6:30 pm - 7:30 pm GMT

How to Listen – What You’re Missing and Why It Matters

Kate Murphy in conversation with Matthew Stadlen

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In our frenetic age, listening is a superpower – and clever people can be worst at it. Drawing on the experiences of social scientists and CIA interrogators, Kate Murphy is here to teach us how.

When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you?

As a society, we’ve forgotten how to listen. Modern life is noisy and technology provides constant distraction. So we tune things out or listen selectively – even to those we love most. We’ve become scared of other people’s points of view, and of silence.

In this livestream event, journalist Kate Murphy draws on countless conversations she has had with everyone from priests to CIA interrogators, focus group moderators to bartenders, her great-great aunt to her friend’s toddler, to show how only by listening well can we truly connect with others.

Listening is about curiosity and patience – about asking the right questions in the right way. Improvisational comedians and con men are much better at it than most of us. It has the potential to transform our relationships and our working lives, improve our self-knowledge, and increase our creativity and happiness. While it may take some effort, it’s a skill that can be learnt and perfected.

When all we crave is to understand and be understood, this livestream event will show us how.

Praise for Kate Murphy’s You’re Not Listening:

‘Gripping from start to finish… brilliant…extraordinarily interesting… full of meat and gold.’ Chris Evans, Virgin Radio Breakfast Show

‘Fiercely topical… You’re Not Listening is an intriguing and constructive take on the problem… and a manual for better communication. Murphy’s book is intelligent and thought-provoking.’ The Times

‘This lively book makes an impassioned plea for listening… an instructive and thought-provoking book that will help readers think about the way they frame questions and responses to forge intimacy.’ Financial Times

‘It’s time for a spot of re-education… A fascinating guide to something we assume we do automatically, yet for the most part do very badly… The art of listening is really the art of being human.’ Guardian

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Kate Murphy

Journalist and author

Journalist Kate Murphy is a New York Times contributor whose eclectic and much-shared pieces have explored an extraordinary range of topics including health, technology, science, design, art, business, finance, fashion, dining, travel, and real estate. Kate is known for her fresh and accessible way of explaining complex subjects, particularly the science behind social interactions, helping readers understand why people behave the way they do.

Photo Credit – Karen Keith

Matthew Stadlen

Broadcaster, writer and regular How To Academy host.

Matthew Stadlen is a broadcaster, writer and regular How To Academy host. Previously he was an LBC presenter, wrote The Matthew Stadlen Interview for the Telegraph and presented the TV series Five Minutes With and On The Road With for the BBC. He is a birdwatcher and photographer, and his book How To See Birds is out now. Twitter: @matthewstadlen